KILBEGGAN PARISH

WEDDING BOOKLET

Wedding Booklet Notes
 The texts in the New Translation for a Wedding Mass are difficult to read and follow. For that reason the texts are chosen from the Missal as the easiest read, or the easiest understood, or the ones that include mention of the bride and groom.
 There are eight each of the three readings. You may wish to delete the Gospels altogether and leave that choice to yourself.
 As the Responsorial Psalm and Alleluia are often sung, there are no choices given.
 It may not be necessary to include the prayers of offering as there is usually music at this point in a wedding liturgy.
 The Eucharistic Prayers as provided include the new extra inclusion for a Nuptial Mass.
 You should strongly consider deleting the Eucharistic Prayers with the Preface and leave that choice to yourself also.
 Generally all that is necessary can be fitted onto a folded A4 page or card. It might include
1. First Reading
2. Second Reading
3. Gospel
4. Address
5. Intercessions
6. The Nuptial Blessing
 While the New Translation is still “new”, it might be necessary to include more in a wedding booklet, in time less would be better as a more economical and environmentally friendly option!
 On the page below is what you might offer a couple as detail of an Order of Service for marriage without Mass.
 On it the Nuptial Blessing and the Sign of Peace may be omitted. The Nuptial Blessing is not always permitted.

Introduction
Greeting
Opening Prayer
First Reading
Responsorial Psalm
Second Reading
Gospel Acclamation
Gospel
Homily
Marriage Rite
Address
Declaration of Consent
Blessing and Exchange of Rings
Prayer of the Faithful
Our Father
(Nuptial Blessing)
(Sign of Peace)
Concluding Prayer
Blessing

The Introductory Rites

THE GREETING
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
Amen.
The grace of our Lord Jesus Christ,
and the love of God,
and the communion of the Holy Spirit
be with you all.
PENITENTIAL RITE
I confess to almighty God
and to you, my brothers and sisters,
that I have greatly sinned,
in my thoughts and in my words,
in what I have done and in what I have failed to do,
through my fault, through my fault,
through my most grievous fault;
therefore I ask blessed Mary ever-Virgin,
all the Angels and Saints,
and you, my brothers and sisters,
to pray for me to the Lord our God.

V. Lord, have mercy. R. Lord, have mercy.
V. Christ, have mercy. R. Christ, have mercy.
V. Lord, have mercy. R. Lord, have mercy.

The Gloria
Glory to God in the highest,
and on earth peace to people of good will.
We praise you,
we bless you,
we adore you,
we glorify you,
we give you thanks for your great glory,
Lord God, heavenly King,
O God, almighty Father.
Lord Jesus Christ, Only Begotten Son,
Lord God, Lamb of God, Son of the Father,
you take away the sins of the world,
have mercy on us;
you take away the sins of the world,
receive our prayer;
you are seated at the right hand of the Father,
have mercy on us.
For you alone are the Holy One,
you alone are the Lord,
you alone are the Most High,
Jesus Christ,
with the Holy Spirit,
in the glory of God the Father.
Amen.

Opening Prayer
Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord,
and in your kindness uphold
what you have established for the increase of the
human race,
so that the union you have created
may be kept safe by your assistance.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, for ever and ever.
Amen.

or

O God, who in creating the human race
willed that man and wife should be one,
join, we pray, in a bond of inseparable love
these your servants who are to be united in the
covenant of Marriage,
so that, as you make their love fruitful,
they may become, by your grace, witnesses to charity itself.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, for ever and ever.
Amen.

or

Be attentive to our prayers, O Lord,
and in your kindness
pour out your grace on these your servants (N. and N.),
that, coming together before your altar,
they may be confirmed in love for one another.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, for ever and ever.
Amen

or

O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage
by so great a mystery
that in the wedding covenant you foreshadow
the Sacrament of Christ and his Church,
grant, we pray, to these your servants,
that what they receive in faith
they may live out in deeds.
Through our Lord Jesus Christ, your Son,
who lives and reigns with you in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
one God, for ever and ever.
Amen.

Liturgy of the Word

First Readings

Choose one Old Testament reading:

A reading from the Song of Songs
I hear my Beloved. See how he comes leaping on the mountains, bounding over the hills. My Beloved is like a gazelle, like a young stag. See where he stands behind our wall. He looks in at the window, he peers through the lattice. My Beloved lifts up his voice, he says to me, “Come then my love, my lovely one, come. My dove, hiding in the clefts of the rock, in the coverts of the cliff, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet and your face is beautiful”. My Beloved is mine and I am his. Set me like a seal on you heart, like a seal on you arm. For love is strong as Death, jealously relentless as Sheol. The flash of it is a flash of fire, a flame of the Lord himself. Love no flood can quench, no torrents drown.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the book of Genesis
God said, “Let us make man in our own image, in the likeness of ourselves, and let them be masters of the fish of the sea, the birds of heaven, the cattle, all the wild beasts and all the reptiles that crawl upon the earth.”
God created man in the image of himself, in the image of God he created them, male and female he created them.
God blessed them, saying to them, “Be fruitful, multiply, fill the earth and conquer it. Be masters of the fish of the sea, the birds of heaven and all living animals on the earth.” God saw all he had made, and indeed it was very good.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the book of Genesis
The Lord God said, “It is not good that man should be alone, I will make him a helpmate. So from the soil the Lord fashioned all the wild beasts and all the birds of heaven. These he brought to the man to see what he would call them, each one was to bear the name the man would give it. The man gave names to all the wild beasts. But no helpmate suitable for man was found for him. So the Lord God made the man fall into a deep sleep. And while he slept he took one of his ribs and enclosed it in flesh. The Lord God built the rib he had taken from the man into a woman, and brought her to the man. The man exclaimed: “This at last is bone from my bones and flesh from my flesh! This is to be called woman, for this was taken from man.”
This is why a man leaves his father and mother and joins himself to his wife, and they become one body.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the book of Tobit
On the evening of their marriage, Tobias said to Sarah, “You and I must pray and petition our Lord to win his grace and protection”, She stood up, and they began praying for protection, and this was how he began: “You are blessed, O God of our fathers; blessed, too, is your name for ever and ever. Let the heavens bless you and all things you have made for evermore. It was you who created Adam, you who created Eve his wife to be his helpmate like himself.” And so I do not take my sister for any lustful motive; I do it in singleness of heart. Be kind enough to have pity on her and on me and bring us to old age together.” And together they said, “Amen, Amen.”
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the Song of Songs
Set me like a seal on your heart, like a seal on your arm. For love is strong as death, passion as relentless as Sheol.
The flash of it is a flash of fire, a flame of Yahweh himself. Love no flood can quench, no torrents drown.
Were a man to offer all his family wealth to buy love, contempt is all that he would gain. Haste away, my love, be like a gazelle, a young stag, on the spice-laden mountain.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the book of Ruth
But Ruth said, “Do not press me to leave and to stop going with you, for wherever you go, I shall go, wherever you live, I shall live. Your people will be my people, and your God will be my God. Where you die, I shall die and there I shall be buried. Let Yahweh bring unnameable ills on me and worse ills, too, if anything but death should part me from you!”
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A Reading from the Book of Ecclesiasticus
Pleasant speech multiplies friends,
and a gracious tongue multiplies courtesies.
Let those who are friendly with you be many,
but let your advisers be one in a thousand.
When you gain friends, gain them through testing,
and do not trust them hastily.
Faithful friends are a sturdy shelter:
whoever finds one has found a treasure.
Faithful friends are beyond price;
no amount can balance their worth.
Faithful friends are life-saving medicine;
and those who fear the Lord will find them.
Those who fear the Lord direct their friendship aright,
for as they are, so are their neighbours also.
The Word of the Lord
Thanks to be God.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the book of Numbers
The Lord spoke to Moses, saying: Speak to Aaron and his sons, saying, thus you shall bless the Israelites: you shall say to them,
The Lord bless you and keep you;
The Lord make his face to shine upon you, and be gracious to you;
The Lord lift up his countenance upon you, and give you peace.
The word of the Lord
Thanks be to God

Responsorial Psalm
It is preferable that the Responsorial Psalm would be sung. If it is not the following may be used.
The Lord is kind and full of compassion

The Lord is kind and full of compassion,
slow to anger, abounding in love.
How good is the Lord to all?
compassionate to all his creatures.


All your creatures shall thank you, O Lord,
and your friends shall repeat their blessing.
The eyes of all creatures look to you
and you give them their food in due time.

The Lord is just in all his ways
and loving in all his deeds.
He is close to all who call him,
who call on him from their hearts.

Second Readings
Choose one New Testament reading:

A reading from the Letter of St Paul to the Ephesians
For this reason I bow my knees before the Father, from whom every family in heaven and on earth takes its name. I pray that, according to the riches of his glory, he may grant that you may be strengthened in your inner being with power through his Spirit, and that Christ may dwell in your hearts through faith, as you are being rooted and grounded in love. I pray that you may have the power to comprehend, with all the saints, what is the breadth and length and height and depth, and to know the love of Christ that surpasses knowledge, so that you may be filled with all the fullness of God.
The word of the Lord
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the first letter of St. Paul to the Corinthians
Be ambitious for the higher gifts. And I am going to show you a way that is better than any of them. If I have all the eloquence of men or of angels, but speak without love, I am simply a gong booming or a cymbal clashing. If I have the gift of prophecy, understanding all the mysteries there are, and knowing everything, and if I have faith in all its fullness, to move mountains, but without love, then I am nothing at all. If I give away all that I possess, piece by piece, and if I even let them take my body to burn it, but am without love, it will do me no good whatever. Love is always patient and kind; it is never jealous; love is never boastful or conceited; it is never rude or selfish; it does not take offence, and is not resentful. Love takes no pleasure in other people’s sins but delights in the truth; it is always ready to excuse, to trust, to hope, and to endure whatever comes. Love does not come to an end.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Romans
Think of God’s mercy, my brothers and sisters, and worship him, I beg you, in a way that is worthy of thinking beings, by offering your loving bodies as a holy sacrifice, truly pleasing to God. Do not model yourselves on the behaviours of the world around you, but let your behaviour change, modelled by your new mind. This is the only way to discover the will of God and know what is good, what it is that God wants, what is the perfect thing to do.
Do not let your love be a pretence, but sincerely prefer good to evil. Love each other as much as brothers should, and have a profound respect for each other. Work for the Lord with untiring effort and with great earnestness of spirit. If you have hope, this will make you cheerful. Do not give up if trials come; and keep on praying. If any of the saints are in need you must share with them; and you should make hospitality your special care.
Bless those who persecute you: never curse them, bless them. Rejoice with those who rejoice and be sad with those in sorrow. Treat everyone with equal kindness; never be condescending but make real friends with the poor. Do not allow yourself to become self-satisfied. Never repay evil with evil but let everyone see that you are interested in the highest ideals. Do all you can to live at peace with everyone.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the first letter of St John
My dear people,
let us love one another since love comes from God
and everyone who loves is begotten by God and knows God.
Anyone who fails to love can never have known God, because God is love.
God’s love for us was revealed when God sent into the world his only Son
so that we could have life through him;
this is the love I mean:
not our love for God, but God’s love for us
when he sent his Son to be the sacrifice that takes our sins away.
My dear people, since God has loved us so much,
we too should love one another.
No one has ever seen God;
but as long as we love one another God will live in us
and his love will be complete in us.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Romans
Do not let your love be a pretence, but sincerely prefer good to evil. Love each other as much as brothers should, and have a profound respect for each other. Work for the Lord with untiring effort and with great earnestness of spirit. If you have hope, this will make you cheerful. Do not give up if trials come; and keep on praying. If any of the saints are in need you must share with them; and you should make hospitality your special care.
Bless those who persecute you: never curse them, bless them. Rejoice with those who rejoice and be sad with those in sorrow. Treat everyone with equal kindness; never be condescending but make real friends with the poor. Do not allow yourself to become self-satisfied. Never repay evil with evil but let everyone see that you are interested in the highest ideals. Do all you can to live at peace with everyone.
The word of the Lord
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Colossians
You are God’s chosen race, his saints; he loves you, and you should be clothed in sincere compassion, in kindness and humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with one another; forgive each other as soon as a quarrel begins. The Lord has forgiven you; now you must do the same. Over all these clothes, to keep them together and complete them, put on love. And may the peace of Christ reign in you hearts; because it is for this that you were called together as parts of one body. Always be thankful.
Let the message of Christ, in all its richness, find a home with you. Teach each other, and advise each other, in all wisdom. With gratitude in your hearts sing psalms and hymns and inspired songs to God and never say or do anything except in the name of the Lord Jesus, giving thanks to God the Father through him.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from St Paul’s letter to the Ephesians
Follow Christ by loving as he loved you, giving himself up in our place. Husbands should love their wives just as Christ loved the Church and sacrificed himself for her to make her holy. He made her clean by washing her in water with a form of words, so that when he took her to himself she would be glorious, with no speck or wrinkle or anything like that, but holy and faultless. In the same way, husbands must love their wives as they love their own bodies; for a man to love his wife is for him to love himself. A man never hates his own body, but feeds it and looks after it; and that is the way Christ treats the Church, because it is his body - and we are its living parts. For this reason, a man must leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two will become one body. This mystery has many implications; but I am saying it applies to Christ and the Church.
This is the word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

Or

A reading from the letter of St Paul to the Philippians
I want you to be happy always in the Lord. I repeat, what I want is your happiness. Let your tolerance be evident to everyone - the Lord is very near. There is no need to worry, but if there is anything you need, pray for it, asking God for it with prayer and thanks giving and that peace of God which is so much greater than we can understand will guard you hearts and your thoughts in Christ Jesus. Finally brothers and sisters, fill your minds with everything that is true, everything that is noble, everything that is good and pure, everything that we love and honour and everything that can be thought virtuous and worthy of praise. Keep doing all the things that you learned from me and have been taught by me and have heard or seen that I do. Then the God of peace will be with you.
The word of the Lord.
Thanks be to God

It is preferable that the Alleluia would be sung. If it is not the may be used.

Alleluia, Alleluia!
God is love;
let us love one another
as God has loved us.
Alleluia!

Gospels
Choose one Gospel reading:

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew
Seeing the crowds, Jesus went up the hill. There he sat down and was joined by his disciples. He began to speak. This is what he taught them:
‘How happy are the poor in spirit: theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Happy the gentle: they shall have the earth for their heritage.
Happy those who mourn: they shall be comforted.
Happy those who hunger and thirst for what is right: they shall be satisfied.
Happy the merciful: they shall have mercy shown them.
Happy the pure in heart: they shall see God.
Happy the peacemakers: they shall be called sons of God.
Happy those who are persecuted in the cause of right: theirs is the kingdom of heaven.
Happy are you when people abuse you and persecute you and speak all kinds of calumny against you on my account. Rejoice and be glad for your reward will be great in heaven.’
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to John
There was a wedding at Cana in Galilee. The mother of Jesus was there, and Jesus and his disciples had also been invited. When they ran out of wine, since the wine provided for the wedding was all finished, the mother of Jesus said to him. “They have no wine.” Jesus said, “Woman, why turn to me? My hour has not come yet.” His mother said to the servants, “Do whatever he tells you.” There were six water jars standing there, meant for the ablutions that are customary among the Jews: each could hold twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to the servants, “Fill the jars with water”, and they filled them to the brim. “Draw some out now,” he told them, “and take it to the steward.” They did this; the steward tasted the water, and it had turned into wine. Having no idea where it came from - only the servants who had drawn the water knew - the steward called the bridegroom and said, “People generally serve the best wine first, and keep the cheaper sort till the guests have had plenty to drink: but you have kept the best wine till now.” This was the first of the signs given by Jesus: it was given at Cana in Galilee. He let his glory be seen, and his disciples believed in him.
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to John
Jesus said to his disciples: “This is my commandment: love one another, as I have loved you. A man can have no greater love that to lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends, if you do what I command you. I shall not call you servants any more, because a servant does not know his master’s business; I call you friends, because I have made known to you everything I have learnt from my Father. You did not choose me, no, I chose you; and I commissioned you to go out and to bear fruit, fruit that will last; then the Father will give you anything you ask him in my name.”
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew
Jesus said to his disciples: “You are the salt of the earth. But if salt becomes tasteless, what can make it salty again? It is good for nothing, and can only be thrown out to be trampled underfoot by men.”
“You are the light of the world. A city built on a hilltop cannot be hidden. No one lights a lamp to put it under a tub; they put it on the lamp-stand where it shines for everyone in the house. In the same way your light must shine in the sight of men, so that, seeing your good works, they may give the praise to your Father in heaven.”
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew
Some Pharisees approached Jesus, and to test him they said, “is it against the Law for a man to divorce his wife on any pretext whatever?” He answered, “Have you not read that the creator from the beginning made them male and female and that he said: This is way a man must leave father and mother, and cling to his wife, and the two become one body? They are no longer two, therefore, but one body. So then, what God has united, man must not divide.”
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew
Jesus said to his disciples: “It is not those who say to me, ‘Lord, Lord’, who will enter the kingdom of heaven, but the person who does the will of my Father in heaven.
Therefore, everyone who listens to these words of mine and acts on them will be like a sensible man who built his house on rock. Rain came down, floods rose, gales blew and hurled themselves against the house, and it did not fall: it was founded on rock. But everyone who listens to these words of mine and does not act on them will be like a stupid man who built his house on sand. Rain came down, floods rose, gales blew and struck that house, and it fell; and what a fall it had”! Jesus had now finished what he wanted to say, and his teaching made a deep impression on the people because he taught them with authority, and not like their own scribes.
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Matthew
The kingdom of Heaven is like a treasure hidden in a field which someone has found; he hides it again, goes off in his joy, sells everything he owns and buys the field. Again, the kingdom of Heaven is like a merchant looking for fine pearls; when he finds one of great value he goes and sells everything he owns and buys it.
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Or

A reading from the holy Gospel according to Luke
Be compassionate just as your Father is compassionate. Do not judge, and you will not be judged; do not condemn, and you will not be condemned; forgive, and you will be forgiven. Give, and there will be gifts for you: a full measure, pressed down, shaken together, and over flowing, will be poured into your lap, because the standard you use will be the standard used for you.
The Gospel of the Lord
Praise to you, Lord Jesus Christ.

Homily
The Rite of Marriage
ADDRESS
(1)
Dear children of God, you have come to this church so that the Lord may seal your love in the presence of the priest and this community.
Christian marriage is a sacred union which enriches natural love. It binds those who enter it to be faithful to each other for ever; it creates between them a bond that endures for life and cannot be broken; it demands that they love and honour each other, that they accept from God the children he may give them, and bring them up in his love.
To help them in their marriage the husband and wife receive the life-long grace of the sacrament. Is this your understanding of marriage?
Both: It is.
or
(2)
Dear children of God, you have come to this church so that the Lord may seal your love in the presence of the priest and this community. Christ blesses this love. He has already consecrated you in baptism; now, by a special sacrament, he strengthens you to fulfil the duties of your married life.
N. and N., you are about to celebrate this sacrament. Have you come here of your own free will and choice and without compulsion to marry each other?
Both:
We have.
Will you love and honour each other in marriage all the days of your life?
Both: We will Are you willing to accept with love the children God may send you and bring them up in accordance with the law of Christ and his Church?
Both: We are.
or
(3)
Dear children of God, you have come today to pledge your love before God and before the Church here present in the person of the priest, your families and friends.
In becoming husband and wife you give yourselves to each other for life. You promise to be true and faithful, to support and cherish each other until death, so that your years together will be the living out in love of the pledge you now make. May your love for each other reflect the enduring love of Christ for his Church.
As you face the future together, keep in mind that the Sacrament of Marriage unites you with Christ, and brings you, through the years, the grace and blessing of God our Father. Marriage is from God: he alone can give you the happiness which goes beyond human expectation, and which grows deeper through the difficulties and struggles of life.
(Put your trust in God as you set out together in life. Make your home a centre of Christian family life. In this you will bequeath to your children a heritage more lasting than temporal wealth.)
The Christian home makes Christ and his Church present in the world of everyday things.
May all who enter your home find there the presence of the Lord; for he has said: ‘Where two or three are gathered together in my name, there am I in the midst of them.’
Now, as you are about to exchange your marriage vows, the Church wishes to be assured that
you appreciate the meaning of what you do, and so I ask you: Have you come here of your own free will and choice to marry each other?
Both: We have.
Will you love and honour each other in marriage all the days of your life?
Both: We will.
The following question may be omitted if, for example, the couple is advanced in years.
Are you willing to accept with love the children God may send you, and bring them up in accordance with the law of Christ, and his Church?
Both: We are.
DECLARATION OF CONSENT
I invite you then to declare before God and his Church your consent to become husband and
wife.
(1)
Bridegroom: N., do you consent to be my wife?
Bride: I do. Do you N., consent to be my husband?
Bridegroom: I do. I take you as my wife and I give myself to you as your husband.
Bride: I take you as my husband and I give myself to you as your wife.
They then join hands and say together:
to love each other truly
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part. (or all the days of our life.)
What God joins together man must not separate.
May the Lord confirm the consent that you have
given and enrich you with his blessings.
or
(2)
I invite you then to declare before God and his Church your consent to become husband and wife.
They join hands:
Bridegroom: I, N., take you, N., as my wife,
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part. (or all the days of our life.)
Bride: I, N., take you, N., as my husband,
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part. (or all the days of our life.)

What God joins together man must not separate.
May the Lord confirm the consent that you have
given and enrich you with his blessings.
or
(3)
I invite you then to declare before God and his
Church your consent to become husband and wife.
They join hands.
The Priest then asks the bridegroom:
N., do you take N., as your wife,
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do you part? (or all the days of your life?)
Bridegroom:
I do.
The Priest then asks the bride:
N., do you take N., as your husband,
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do you part? (or all the days of your life?)
Bride:
I do.
When the bride and bridegroom have given their consent the Priest says:
What God joins together man must not separate.
May the Lord confirm the consent that you have
given and enrich you with his blessings.
or
(4)
I invite you then to declare before God and his
Church your consent to become husband and wife.
Bridegroom: N., do you consent to be my wife?
Bride: I do. N., do you consent to be my husband?
Bridegroom: I do.
They join hands and say together:
We take each other as husband and wife
and promise to love each other truly
for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
till death do us part. (or all the days of our life.)
When the bride and bridegroom have given their consent,
the Priest says:
The Lord has joined you together.
May he fulfil his blessing in you; may he keep you in his love.
BLESSING OF RINGS
(1)
May the Lord bless these rings which will be the sign of your love and fidelity.
Amen.
or
(2)
Lord, bless N. and N. and consecrate their married life. May this ring (these rings) be a symbol of their faith in each other, and a reminder of their love.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(3)
Lord, bless these rings. Grant that those who wear them may always be
faithful to each other. May they do your will and live in peace with you in mutual love. Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(4)
Almighty God, bless this ring (these rings), symbol(s) of faithfulness and unbroken love. May N. and N. always be true to each other, may they be one in heart and mind, may they be united in love forever.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.

The bridegroom places the bride’s ring on her finger and says:
N., wear this ring as a sign of our faithful love.
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
The bride may place a ring on the bridegroom’s finger and says:
N., wear this ring as a sign of our faithful love.
In the name of the Father, and of the Son, and of the Holy Spirit.
The bridegroom may give gold and silver to the bride saying:
I give you this gold and silver, tokens of all I possess.
Or, the bride and bridegroom may exchange small symbolic gifts saying:
N., I give you this gift, a token of all I possess.
PRAYER OF THE NEWLY MARRIED COUPLE
The couple are recommended to say together the following or some similar prayer:
We thank you, Lord,
and we praise you
for bringing us
to this happy day.
You have given us to each other.
Now, together, we give ourselves to you.
We ask you, Lord:
make us one in your love;
keep us one in your peace.
Protect our marriage.
Bless our home.
Make us gentle.
Keep us faithful.
And when life is over
unite us again
where parting is no more
in the kingdom of your love.
There we will praise you
in the happiness and peace
of our eternal home.
Amen.

PRAYER OF THE FAITHFUL
Some of the following intercessions or others may be used.
1. For N. and N., that the Lord,
who has brought them to this happy day will
keep them forever in fidelity and love
After each intercession:
Lord, hear us.
Lord graciously hear us.
2. For the parents of N. and N., for their friends
and all who have helped them
to become husband and wife.
3. That the Lord may bless the world with his peace and the protection of his love.
4. For our community and our families,
who welcome Christ into their lives;
that they learn to receive him
in the poor and suffering people of this world.
5. For God’s Church, the Bride of Christ,
that it may be united in faith and love.
6. For all who are victims of injustice,
and for those deprived of love and affection.
7. For married couples everywhere,
that their lives will be an example to the world
of unity, fidelity and love.
8. For those who mourn, while we are rejoicing,
that in their suffering and loneliness
they may experience the strength of God’s support.
9. For the faithful departed
and especially for those
whom we, ourselves, have loved,
that God will one day unite us again
in the joys of our eternal home.
The Liturgy of the Eucharist
The bride and bridegroom, or their parents, may bring the bread and wine to the altar.

PRAYER OVER THE OFFERINGS
(1)
Receive, we pray, O Lord,
the offering made on the occasion
of this sealing of the sacred bond of Marriage,
and, just as your goodness is its origin,
may your providence guide its course.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(2)
Receive in your kindness, Lord,
the offerings we bring in gladness before you,
and in your fatherly love
watch over those you have joined in a sacramental covenant.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
The Eucharistic Prayer
The Lord be with you.
And with your spirit.
Lift up your hearts
We lift them up to the Lord.
Let us give thanks to the Lord our God.
It is right and just.

PREFACE (A: THE DIGNITY OF THE MARRIAGE COVENANT)
It is truly right and just, our duty and our salvation, always and everywhere to give you
thanks, Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God..
For you have forged the covenant of marriage as a sweet yoke of harmony
and an unbreakable bond of peace,
so that the chaste and fruitful love of holy Matrimony
may serve to increase the children you adopt as your own.
By your providence and grace, O Lord
you accomplish the wonder of this twofold design:
that, while the birth of children brings beauty to the world,
their rebirth in Baptism gives increase to the Church,
through Christ our Lord.
Through him, with the Angels and all the Saints,
we sing the hymn of your praise,
as without end we acclaim:
At the end of the Preface the people sing or say:
Holy, Holy, Holy Lord God of hosts.
Heaven and earth are full of your glory.
Hosanna in the highest.
Blessed is he who comes in the name of the Lord.
Hosanna in the highest.
or
PREFACE (B: THE GREAT SACRAMENT OF MATRIMONY)
It is truly right and just, our duty and our salvation,
always and everywhere to give you thanks,
Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God,
through Christ our Lord.
For in him you have made a new covenant with your people,
so that, as you have redeemed man and woman
by the mystery of Christ’s Death and Resurrection,
so in Christ you might make them partakers of divine nature
and joint heirs with him of heavenly glory.
In the union of husband and wife
you give a sign of Christ’s loving gift of grace,
so that the Sacrament we celebrate
might draw us back more deeply
into the wondrous design of your love.
And so, with the Angels and all the Saints,
we praise you, and without end we acclaim:
Holy, Holy, Holy Lord God of hosts …
or
PREFACE (C: MATRIMONY AS A SIGN OF DIVINE LOVE)
It is truly right and just, our duty and our salvation,
always and everywhere to give you thanks,
Lord, holy Father, almighty and eternal God.
For you willed that the human race,
created by the gift of your goodness,
should be raised to such high dignity
that in the union of husband and wife
you might bestow a true image of your love.
For those you created out of charity
you call to the law of charity without ceasing
and grant them a share in your eternal charity.
And so, the Sacrament of holy Matrimony,
as the abiding sign of your own love,
consecrates the love of man and woman,
through Christ our Lord.
Through him, with the Angels and all the Saints,
we sing the hymn of your praise,
as without end we acclaim:
Holy, Holy, Holy Lord God of hosts …
Choose one of the following Eucharistic Prayers if you wish to include one in your
booklet. NB: Insert appropriate Names where ‘N’ is indicated.
Eucharistic Prayer II
You are indeed Holy, O Lord,
the fount of all holiness.
Make holy, therefore, these gifts, we pray,
by sending down your Spirit upon them like the dewfall,
so that they may become for us
the Body and Blood of our Lord Jesus Christ.
At the time he was betrayed
and entered willingly into his Passion,
he took bread and, giving thanks, broke it,
and gave it to his disciples, saying:
TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND EAT OF IT,
FOR THIS IS MY BODY,
WHICH WILL BE GIVEN UP FOR YOU.
In a similar way, when supper was ended,
he took the chalice
and, once more giving thanks,
he gave it to his disciples, saying:
TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND DRINK FROM IT,
FOR THIS IS THE CHALICE OF MY BLOOD,
THE BLOOD OF THE NEW AND ETERNAL COVENANT,
WHICH WILL BE POURED OUT FOR YOU AND FOR MANY
FOR THE FORGIVENESS OF SINS.
DO THIS IN MEMORY OF ME.
The Priest then says:
The mystery of faith.
We proclaim your Death, O Lord,
and profess your resurrection
until you come again.
or
When we eat this Bread and drink this Cup,
we proclaim your Death, O Lord,
until you come again.
or
Save us, Saviour of the world,
for by your Cross and Resurrection
you have set us free.
or
My Lord and my God.
Therefore, as we celebrate
the memorial of his Death and Resurrection,
we offer you, Lord,
the Bread of life and the Chalice of salvation,
giving thanks that you have held us worthy
to be in your presence and minister to you.
Humbly we pray
that, partaking of the Body and Blood of Christ,
we may be gathered into one by the Holy Spirit.
Remember, Lord, your Church,
spread throughout the world,
and bring her to the fullness of charity,
together with N. our Pope and N. our Bishop,
the clergy and all your people.
Be mindful also, Lord, of N. and N.,
whom you have brought to their wedding day,
so that by your grace
they may abide in mutual love and in peace.
Remember also our brothers and sisters
who have fallen asleep in the hope of the resurrection,
and all who have died in your mercy:
welcome them into the light of your face.
Have mercy on us all, we pray,
that with the Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of God,
with the blessed Apostles,
and all the Saints who have pleased you throughout the ages,,
we may merit to be coheirs to eternal life,
and may praise and glorify you
through your Son, Jesus Christ.
Through him, and with him, and in him,
O God, almighty Father,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
all glory and honour is your,
for ever and ever.
Amen.
Then follows the Communion Rite.
Eucharistic Prayer III
You are indeed Holy, O Lord,
and all you have created
rightly gives you praise,
for through your Son our Lord Jesus Christ,
by the power and working of the Holy Spirit,
you give life to all things and make them holy,
and you never cease to gather a people to yourself,
so that from the rising of the sun to its setting
a pure sacrifice may be offered to your name.
Therefore, O Lord, we humbly implore you:
by the same Spirit graciously make holy
these gifts we have brought to you for consecration,
that they may become the Body and Blood
of your Son our Lord Jesus Christ,
at whose command we celebrate these mysteries.
For on the night he was betrayed
he himself took bread,
and, giving you thanks, he said the blessing,
broke the bread and gave it to his disciples, saying:
TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND EAT OF IT,
FOR THIS IS MY BODY,
WHICH WILL BE GIVEN UP FOR YOU.
In a similar way, when supper was ended,
he took the chalice,
and, giving you thanks, he said the blessing,
and gave the chalice to his disciples, saying:
TAKE THIS, ALL OF YOU, AND DRINK FROM IT,
FOR THIS IS THE CHALICE OF MY BLOOD,
THE BLOOD OF THE NEW AND ETERNAL COVENANT,
WHICH WILL BE POURED OUT FOR YOU AND FOR MANY
FOR THE FORGIVENESS OF SINS.
DO THIS IN MEMORY OF ME.
The Priest then says:
The mystery of faith.
We proclaim your Death, O Lord,
and profess your Resurrection
until you come again.
or
When we eat this Bread and drink this Cup,
we proclaim your Death, O Lord,
until you come again.
or
Save us, Saviour of the world,
for by your Cross and Resurrection
you have set us free.
or
My Lord and my God.
Therefore, O Lord, as we celebrate the memorial
of the saving Passion of your Son,
his wondrous Resurrection
and Ascension into heaven,
and as we look forward to his second coming,
we offer you in thanksgiving
this holy and living sacrifice.
Look, we pray, upon the oblation of your Church
and, recognising the sacrificial Victim by whose death
you willed to reconcile us to yourself,
grant that we, who are nourished
by the Body and Blood of your Son
and filled with his Holy Spirit,
may become one body, one spirit in Christ.
May he make us
an eternal offering to you,
so that we may obtain an inheritance with your elect,
especially with the most Blessed Virgin Mary, Mother of God,
with your blessed Apostles and glorious Martyrs
and with all the Saints,
on whose constant intercession in your presence
we rely for unfailing help.
May this Sacrifice of our reconciliation,
we pray, O Lord,
advance the peace and salvation of all the world.
Be pleased to confirm in faith and charity
your pilgrim Church on earth,
with your servant N. our Pope and N. our Bishop,
the Order of Bishops, all the clergy,
and the entire people you have gained for your own.
Listen graciously to the prayers of this family,
whom you have summoned before you:
Strengthen, we pray, in the grace of Marriage N. and N.,
whom you have brought happily to their wedding day,
that under your protection
they may always be faithful in their lives
to the covenant they have sealed in your presence.
In your compassion, O merciful Father,
gather to yourself all your children
scattered throughout the world.
To our departed brothers and sisters
and to all who were pleasing to you
at their passing from this life,
give kind admittance to your kingdom.
There we hope to enjoy for ever the fullness of your glory
through Christ our Lord,
through whom you bestow on the world all that is good.
Through him, and with him, and in him,
O God, almighty Father,
in the unity of the Holy Spirit,
all glory and honour is yours,
for ever and ever.
Amen.
Then follows the Communion Rite.
The Communion Rite
At the Saviour’s command and formed by divine teaching, we dare to say:
Our Father who art in heaven,
hallowed be thy name;
thy kingdom come,
thy will be done
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
and forgive us our trespasses,
as we forgive those who trespass against us;
and lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from evil.
Amen.
NUPTIAL BLESSING
After the Our Father, the prayer Deliver us is omitted. The Priest, standing and facing
the bride and bridegroom, invokes upon them God’s blessing.
In the invitation, if one or both of the spouses will not be receiving Communion, the
words in brackets are omitted, In the prayer, the words in brackets may be omitted if it
seems that circumstances suggest it, for example, if the bride and bridegroom are
advanced in years. Remove brackets if the relevant text is used.
(1)
Dear brothers and sisters,
let us humbly pray to the Lord
that on these his servants, now married in Christ,
he may mercifully pour out
the blessing of his grace
and make of one heart in love
(by the Sacrament of Christ’s Body and Blood)
those he has joined by a holy covenant.
And all pray in silence for a moment.
O God, who by your mighty power
created all things out of nothing,
and, when you had set in place
the beginnings of the universe,
formed man and woman in your own image,
making the woman an inseparable helpmate to the man,
that they might no longer be two, but one flesh,
and taught that what you were pleased to make one
must never be divided;
O God, who consecrated the bond of Marriage
by so great a mystery
that in the wedding covenant you foreshadowed
the Sacrament of Christ and his Church;
O God, by whom woman is joined to man
and the companionship they had in the beginning
is endowed with the one blessing
not forfeited by original sin
nor washed away by the flood.
Look now with favour on these your servants,
joined together in Marriage,
who ask to be strengthened by your blessing.
Send down on them the grace of the Holy Spirit
and pour your love into their hearts,
that they may remain faithful in the Marriage covenant.
May the grace of love and peace
abide in your daughter N.,
and let her always follow the example of those holy women
whose praises are sung in the Scriptures.
May her husband entrust his heart to her,
so that, acknowledging her as his equal
and his joint heir to the life of grace,
he may show her due honour
and cherish her always
with the love that Christ has for his Church.
And now, Lord, we implore you:
may these your servants
hold fast to the faith and keep your commandments;
made one in the flesh,
may they be blameless in all they do;
and with the strength that comes from the Gospel,
may they bear true witness to Christ before all;
(may they be blessed with children,
and prove themselves virtuous parents,
who live to see their children’s children).
And grant that,
reaching at last together the fullness of years
for which they hope,
they may come to the life of the blessed
in the Kingdom of Heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(2)
Let us pray to the Lord for this bride and groom,
who come to the altar as they begin their married life,
that (partaking of the Body and Blood of Christ)
they may always be bound together by love for one another.
And all pray in silence for a while moment.
Holy Father,
who formed man in your own image,
male and female you created them,
so that as husband and wife, united in body and heart,
they might fulfil their calling in the world;
O God, who, to reveal the great design you formed in your love,
willed that the love of spouses for each other
should foreshadow the covenant you graciously made with your people,
so that, by fulfilment of the sacramental sign,
the mystical marriage of Christ with his Church
might become manifest
in the union of husband and wife among your faithful;
Graciously stretch out your right hand
over these your servants (N. and N.), we pray,
and pour into their hearts the power of the Holy Spirit.
Grant, O Lord,
that, as they enter upon this sacramental union,
they may share with one another the gifts of your love
and, by being for each other a sign of your presence,
become one heart and one mind.
May they also sustain, O Lord, by their deeds
the home they are forming
(and prepare their children
to become members of your heavenly household
by raising them in the way of the Gospel).
Graciously crown with your blessings your daughter N.,
so that, by being a good wife (and mother),
she may bring warmth to her home with a love that is pure
and adorn it with welcoming graciousness.
Bestow a heavenly blessing also, O Lord,
on N., your servant,
that he may be a worthy, good and
faithful husband (and a provident father).
Grant, holy Father,
that, desiring to approach your table
as a couple joined in Marriage in your presence,
they may one day have the joy
of taking part in your great banquet in heaven.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
The peace of the Lord be with you always.
And with your spirit.
Let us offer each other the sign of peace.
Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world,
have mercy on us.
Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world,
have mercy on us.
Lamb of God, you take away the sins of the world,
grant us peace.
Behold the Lamb of God,
behold him who takes away the sins of the world.
Blessed are those called to the supper of the Lamb.
Lord, I am not worthy
that you should enter under my roof,
but only say the word
and my soul shall be healed.
The Communion now follows.
The bride and bridegroom may receive Communion under both kinds.
During Communion it is recommended that a hymn be sung.
Only if there is no hymn should you include the ‘Communion Antiphon’
Let us pray.
(1)
By the power of this sacrifice, O Lord,
accompany with your loving favour
what in your providence you have instituted,
so as to make of one heart in love
those you have already joined in this holy union
(and replenished with the one Bread and the one Chalice).
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(2)
Having been made partakers at your table,
we pray, O Lord,
that those who are united by the Sacrament of Marriage
may always hold fast to you
and proclaim your name to the world.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
or
(3)
Grant, we pray, almighty God,
that the power of the Sacrament we have received
may find growth in these your servants
and that the effects of the sacrifice we have offered
may be felt by us all.
Through Christ our Lord.
Amen.
The Concluding Rites
The Lord be with you.
And with your spirit.
SOLEMN BLESSING
(1)
May God the eternal Father
keep you of one heart in love for one another,
that the peace of Christ may dwell in you
and abide always in your home.
Amen.
May you be blessed in your children,
have solace in your friends
and enjoy true peace with everyone.
Amen.
May you be witnesses in the world to God’s charity,
so that the afflicted and needy who have known your kindness
may one day receive you thankfully
into the eternal dwelling of God.
Amen.
And he blesses all the people, adding:
And may almighty God bless all of you, who are gathered here,
the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
Amen.
or
(2)
May God the all-powerful Father grant you his joy and bless you in your children.
Amen.
May the Only Begotten Son of God
stand by you with compassion in good times and in bad.
Amen.
May the Holy Spirit of God
always pour forth his love into your hearts.
Amen.

And may almighty God bless all of you, who are gathered here,
the Father, and the Son, and the Holy Spirit.
Amen.

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